Talking To Loved Ones About Cremation Pre-Plans Posted on November 15, 2021 by ilesfuneralhomes If you have taken it upon yourself to make your own plans for cremation services West Des Moines, IA in the future, that’s a huge step and a wonderful thing to do for your family. While you might already have the plans in place, you still want to let your family know that there are plans and where they can call when the time comes. Even if you are young and healthy, it’s good to let your family in on what you planned out so they can have time to process their own feelings and get used to the ideas of what you want. Here are some tips to help you talk to your family about what you planned. Find A Good Time First, you are going to want a good time to talk about this serious subject. You don’t want a bunch of the kids in the family running around and interrupting. You need quiet, dedicated time for the discussion. Wait until the kids go to bed, have a family dinner at another location, or get on an internet facetime call so you can have the time you need for this important subject. Let everyone know what you want to discuss so they aren’t shocked, too. Know What You Want With Reasons Once you have everyone you want to talk to gathered, let them in on what you have planned out and be prepared to offer reasons. There are no right or wrong reasons for choosing cremation and if that’s what you want, that’s reason enough. But some of your family might push you and want to know why you set things up the way you did. If it’s because you didn’t want to spend much, tell them. If it’s because you want to be scattered in a certain location, let them know. Having your reasons in hand can help you to explain and it can help them feel comfortable about the process as a whole. Allow Questions Don’t treat the process as a dictatorship. Even if the plans are set and you know what you want, it’s nice to let your family ask questions. They might come up with things that you hadn’t yet thought about. If nothing else, it’s nice for them to get the answer directly from you rather than having to wonder about it in the future after you pass on and can no longer answer. Ask What Others Want If there are certain things you aren’t sure about, you could ask your family what they would like to have happen. Or, you could use this as an opportunity to open the discussion and ask other people in your family what they would want in the future if they were to pass on first. If you want them to know what you would like, it might be nice for you to know what they want as well. You can plan your cremation services in West Des Moines, IA with Iles Funeral Home whenever you are ready.